Have you been in love and just lost it? All of a sudden or gradually… You may or may not love the person but it could just be someone that you are so used to. Or it could have been someone whom have always been by your side but you’ve forgotten their existence. They became a shadow and was taken granted of.

What happens when he/she leaves? Desperate they do silly things. At times, it may not be desperate but to lose. To lose to someone else, to lose to oneself, believing that he/she will never leave.

It hurts but overwhelm by all these emotions, they do stupid things.

For gals, sex is the only thing that can come to their mind. They will turn up at the guy’s place and try to "seduce" him. Thinking that after sex, he will go back to her. Hanging around his place after work. Finding out from his friends when he is and going down to look for him. Calling and texting him all day. Going to his place and waiting for him to come home. Forcing him to talk to me, forcing answers out of him. Even begging the other person to leave, if he found a new person.

Guys, they will be become exceptionally gentle and patience. In the past when we wanted them to pick us up after work or shopping, they will always come up with some excuses. But now, they will offer to go shopping with you, pick you up or wait for you at some cafe as you shop. Buying things that you always wanted or bringing you on the long awaited trip.

If you ever done or is doing these things, hopefully you’ll wake or never do it again.

If you’ve made the person so disappointed in the relationship, do you think by doing these things they will come back to you? Why not be there when they needed you in the first place?

Those were the days when they wanted to have dinner with you, shopping or just stopping for coffee. Cooked but you end up having dinner with friends. Waited up for you to return home and you came back drunk. Put up with your nonsense, screams, quarrel, unreasonable request, cold shoulder and infidelity.

Finally, they gave up. Given up on waiting, trying, accommadating as well as the great amount of disappointment.

Instead, having you hanging around can be quite a task. It could be a nuisance when you keep calling and texting to find out what we are doing and saying words of concern. The concern doesn’t mean anything or has any impact.

People around you will advise you or even scold you for being so stupid. But all their words will turn to deaf ear. All the energy in you is spent on trying to win the person back. You don’t care how much energy or money needs to be spent. One goal!

Ask yourself. What is it that you want. It is really not easy doing it. But try sitting down at a quiet corner and think. Ask yourself if you will be happy when the person goes back to you. What if they take you for granted? Will you be happy? Will things go back to normal and like before?

Always, love the person that loves you the most. Be with the person that wants to be with you the most.